Relationships, Relationships, Relationships..........yh, that's what we will be talking about.
Relationships are complicated but could be very simple at the same time (if one understands the situation). Every relationship is unique in it's own way, which is very reasonable considering the fact that every individual is very different and unique.
I am really worried, concerned and curious about this. Am from a muslim and christain family, my dad and my brothers are all muslims while me and my sister are christains. My parent do not mind in anyway as they gave us the liberty to choose which religion we want as long as you are dilligent and committed to it. The funny thing about the situation now is that all my brothers are dating christains (committed relationship) and none of them mind neither does anyone in the family either. My sister is dating a christain, so she really doesn't have to worry about this.
Here is the deal for me, most of the guys tryna get with me are muslims and i just can't help but wonder how that will work. It's not like i mind dating or marrying a muslim but am worried about whoever it is i choose to date/ marry & what might happen later on in life. I always make it clear to them that am not willing to change my religion for any reason. Most of them are relationship worthy guys and are willing n ready to commit but then the religion differences keeps coming up. Some of them claims not to have a problem with me being a christain and are willing to have a relationship with me regardless of my religion.
Ok, so i talked to my brothers and they apparently don't think/see anything wrong with the idea of dating a muslim if he's ready n willing to let me keep being a christain; but then my close friends don't seem to like the idea cos they think the man might later demand that i become a muslim. I perfectly understand both POV but then..............uuuurrrrrrrgggggghhhhhh!......it's all confusing.
So, here is my question....(remember, am a female).....How important is religion in a relationship/marriage? Does religion really matters in a relationship/marriage or not? What is your opinion about couples with different religions?
I would really love to hear what y'all think especially the married folks in the house.
NB~ Congratulations to my elder brother and his girlfriend.....they got engaged yesterday...... yep! he proposed and yesterday was her birthday too......How sweet is that, getting engaged on your birthday. Am really happy for them......Should decide the wedding date before the end of summer.
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Well,i am in d same situation,i am engaged to be married in October.
truth is he has promised not to ask me to change but i have it at the back of my mind that if it evidently a problem in my marriage, i will.
He doesn't know this but i have resolved that in my mind.
That was the only sane way i could view it,this world is too evil,one needs to be filled with prayers so one needs to put forward a united praying front.
congrats to your bro.......
Hey there, I'm also a christian young lady..i'm currently single. For me religion and marriage go hand in hand. The bible says that we can't be unequally yoked with an unbeliever...but anything is possible. If your parents could do it..then there's a possiblity that it'll work for you as well. My mom's fam is muslim and my dad's fam is Christian...my mom ended up converting but without pressure from my dad. It just makes it alot easier to be able to worship and pray together. You know they say that "A family the prays together, stays together". It's a tough decision...just ask God for direction. Always remember that in most cases, when a woman gets married she's expected to adopt her husband's religion. But you'll be fine! Don't stress it...If you make the right decision, you'll be at peace and that's how you'll know that it's God's will!
i dunno, but i think its easier when you both have the same religious background. you both help yourselves grow spiritually and that affects everything else.
I think you should pray about it sha.
my 2 cents... hope you find the best answer soon...... <3
@qmoney.....thanks so much...really admire your outlook n POV.
@BBYWXOXOX.....Thanks dear....i guess at the end of the day, it will come down to what God plans are for my life....'ve been pray about it n will surely continue
@anon....thanks...def. it's easier when u have the same religion....but i guess God will def. teach me the way to go.
Hmm... the textbook answer would be that two people need to be aligned on their spiritual views to make it work in the long run.... I have seen people of different religions make a marriage work though....
Awwww @ your brother proposing on her birthday
And in my opinion, I've found that it's easier when your religious backgrounds are the same-ish so that like anonymous said, you can help each other grow in your faith and it'll be something that unites and not divides you but it all depends on you and how YOU feel about it, if you feel like things can't work with someone because of disparities in your religions then that's okay and if you feel it can work then that's okay too :)
Hope that helped even if just a little bit
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it is easier when its d same religion but still as long as u both blive in God. my parents have been married for 37 years and my dad is muslim and mum is christian and they r still happily married.
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my dear, i don't know oh jare. Wen i married my husband, i told him i wasn't a church-going person. Technically, am a pentecostal Christian, but i don't always go 2 church. Say, like once a month or even fewer times a year. Now, my husband is a morning-mass going Catholic! That means he goes to church everyday!!!!!!!!!!! He said he didn't want us to go to different churches, but if i insists on remaining a pentecostal, he was fine with it. So oh, in other to please him & keep peace, i converted to Catholic church. But, i still don't do 2 church every Sunday. I told him daz who i am, dat he shouldn't try to force his church practices down my throat. He said fine.
But now, 7 months married, dude has been hinting @ me not going to church. Am like, 'eh, u r going 4 d two of us now'. But he doesn't like dat. So, sometimes i follow him to church, but he can see dat am bored out of my brains!!!!! Bottom-line, he is making me feel 'bad' for not being as committed to Catholicism as him, forgetting dat i warned him of dat right from d start!
So, if u ask me, stick to what u know. or rather, date & marry a Christian. Making d transistion from pentecostal to Catholic is tough enough, not be mention from Christianity to Islam. Cos even if u do 4 for them, another issue now comes up abt ur commitment 2 d new religion. When a man is dating a woman, he is quick 2 make promises he may not keep.
haven't been here in a while. How far? Hope all is well and congrats to your brother and his fiance.
As to religion, it is indeed important. Someone who is religious needs to make sure their partner understands that before their relationship gets serious. That way they can work through any difficulties or misunderstandings.
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Thanks y'all.....really appreciate it
i feel marriage is hard enough...you might as well go into it on leveled grounds..so cross religion is a NO NO..just my opinion
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